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Started by Peterp, January 21, 2022, 12:51:41 PM

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Peterp

Hi everyone just need some advice pls

I share a house with 4 others , one of the other  guys has been harassing me, shouting and swearing , today he started in the hall near my bedroom and I said " I'm not getting  into this " and tried to get passed him but he pushed me slightly , I went to my room and closed the door but he was still outside shouting. He's complaining about silly things like me leaving my toothpaste on bathroom sink sometimes and not wiping the window ledge properly. It seems he's just looking for reasons to have a go but the situation is now getting worse to the point that when I want to walk away I'm being blocked and provoked.
Should I be reporting this to the police ? I'm feeling really uncomfortable in my own home, I have accepted a job offer in other City that starts in 3 months so Ideally I'd like to stay until then. Is this harassment and what can I do ? Thank you for any advice

HandyMan

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Are his complaints directly solely at you, or do the other three sharers suffer as well?

What do they say when you talk with them about the behaviour?

heavykarma

As you describe it I don't think this is something serious enough to get the police involved.It's not at all unusual to get situations like this in shared accomodation.If all of you are being  upset,then the obvious thing is to make a joint complaint to the landlord.If the others don't have this problem, then the easiest  solution would be to try to be tidy and considerate in the shared areas.It is only for a few more months.He may be a very difficult person,but you'll meet lots of those in life.

Peterp

Thanks for getting back .

I've just spoken to Shelter and they said I should absolutely report it to the police, just so they have a log of it . They have informed me that as the situation seems to be getting worse to the point where I can't be in my room peacefully and also I'm being blocked from trying to leave the situation this is absolutely harassment and the moment someone puts a finger on you it should be reported in case things escalate in the future.

He has an issue with 2 others and has at times abused them verbally.

As the situation seems to be getting worse I think I will report it, I'm clean and tidy but when sharing with others  EVERYONE needs to compromise. The person in question has at times done much worse than leave toothpaste on the sink on occasion .


heavykarma

You did not mention in your first post that he is coming into your room to rant at you.By all means report it if it needs to be logged,but I know from personal experience and cases on here that the police rarely bother following up such things.One of my tenants asked the man upstairs (his own flat) to make a bit less noise.His response was to bawl at her,then when she went back indoors he followed her, kicked the door in and pushed his fist and face right against hers,



You did not mention before that he is coming into your room.By all means follow the advice to get it logged.I have to say from personal experience and cases on here that the police rarely bother taking action until things take a dramatic turn.The man who lives above one of my flats has been a thorn in my side for years.he owns his flat.One of my tenants went up to ask him to keep the noise down a bit.His response was to bawl her out,then follow her when she went back down.He kicked the door in,pushed his fist and face against hers,screaming that if she ever bothered him again she would get her face smashed in.He is in his 30's,well over 6ft.tall.On another occasion he threw a punch at a neighbour,having just dented this man's car.
It was reported and duly logged,along with many other complaints the police told me.They never actually spoke to him.I had strong words with him,and it helped a bit but he is still shouty,noisy and often stoned. He has caused me to lose some good tenants. Maybe the police in your area take such things more seriously
If you really feel unsafe,you should ask the landlord to evict him.If he can't/won't, then leave.







screaming that he would smash her face in.The police did log it,along with several other reports they had about him,but they never actually spoke to him.I did,and it helped a bit.He is still there,and I have lost some good tenants because of him.
Your only hope is to ask the landlord to evict if you feel very unsafe there,or move out.

Peterp

It's been reported and the Police said they've logged it, they've said they will come out to chat to us both about the situation and if it happens again to call 999 immediately. A lot of the shouting happens directly outside my bedroom door. I completely understand disagreements happen when sharing but this has gone way beyond that .
Thanks for your advice